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Quick answer
- Consent is freely given, reversible, informed, enthusiastic and specific.
- It’s needed every time, including in long-term relationships.
- Talking openly makes sex better and safer.
- Confidential support is available if something happened you didn’t want.
Great sex starts with great communication. Consent isn’t a form you sign once – it’s an ongoing, two-way check-in that makes everyone feel safe and wanted.
What consent looks like
Under UK law, someone consents if they agree by choice and have the freedom and capacity to make that choice. In practice:
- Freely given – no pressure, guilt-tripping or threats
- Reversible – you can change your mind at any point, even mid-way
- Informed – e.g. agreeing to sex with a condom isn’t agreeing to sex without one
- Enthusiastic – a real yes, not “I guess”
- Specific – yes to one thing isn’t yes to everything
MythIf you’re in a relationship, consent is a given.
Fact
Consent is needed every time, with every partner – including long-term partners and spouses.
Talking about sex (without cringing)
- Pick a relaxed moment, not mid-argument
- Use “I” language: “I love it when…”, “I’d like to try…”
- Check in: “Does this feel good?” “Want to keep going?”
- Agree a pause word if you like – a simple “pause” works
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