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Quick answer
- Libido naturally varies – there’s no normal amount.
- Many people notice a peak around ovulation and a dip before periods.
- Stress, relationships, medicines and contraception can all play a part.
- A GP can help if it’s bothering you.
Some weeks you’re all heart-eyes, others you’d rather cuddle a hot water bottle. Your libido isn’t a fixed setting – it shifts with hormones, stress, sleep, relationships and life. There’s no “normal” amount of wanting sex.
Across your cycle
- Period
Often lower – cramps and tiredness don’t scream romance. Some people feel extra frisky though!
- Follicular
Energy and desire often build as oestrogen rises.
- Ovulation
Many people notice a peak – higher sex drive is a common ovulation sign.
- Luteal
Can dip, especially if PMS shows up. Be gentle with yourself.
Bigger-picture causes of low libido (NHS)
- Relationship problems
- Stress, anxiety or depression
- Sexual problems like vaginal dryness or erection issues
- Pregnancy and caring for a baby
- Some medicines, such as antidepressants
- Hormonal contraception like the pill, patch or implant
- Drinking too much alcohol
- Long-term conditions such as diabetes or an underactive thyroid
MythDesire should just appear out of nowhere.
For lots of people desire shows up after things get started – touch, closeness and arousal can come first. That’s completely normal.
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This is general information, not medical advice. Splash can’t diagnose. If you’re worried, talk to a GP, pharmacist or sexual health clinic. In an emergency call 999 (UK) or 911 (US). How we write and check articles.