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Quick answer
- Water- and silicone-based lubes are condom-safe.
- Oil-based lube damages latex condoms.
- Skip perfumes and spermicides if you’re sensitive.
- Ongoing dryness is worth a GP chat.
Lube isn’t just for “problems” – it makes sex more comfortable and often more fun. Plenty of things affect natural wetness: your cycle, hormonal contraception, breastfeeding, stress, or just not being warmed up yet.
The three main types
- Water-based: condom-safe, toy-safe, easy to wash off. May need reapplying.
- Silicone-based: longer-lasting, condom-safe – but can damage silicone toys, so check labels.
- Oil-based (e.g. coconut oil): long-lasting, but damages latex condoms – avoid with latex.
Choosing wisely
- Avoid perfumed or flavoured lubes if you’re prone to irritation, thrush or BV
- Spermicidal lube can irritate and may raise UTI risk – the NHS suggests non-spermicidal
- Trying to conceive? Choose one labelled fertility-friendly
- Patch-test new products if you have sensitive skin
MythNeeding lube means you’re not turned on.
Fact
Wetness and desire don’t always line up. Hormones, contraception and stress all affect it.
Sources
Written by the Splash teamSources checked
This is general information, not medical advice. Splash can’t diagnose. If you’re worried, talk to a GP, pharmacist or sexual health clinic. In an emergency call 999 (UK) or 911 (US). How we write and check articles.