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Quick answer
- There is no set time; go when you feel ready.
- Lubricant and going slowly make sex more comfortable.
- Contraception matters from 3 weeks after birth.
- Ongoing pain is worth telling a GP about.
There is no set date when you “should” have sex again after birth. The NHS is clear: there are no rules, and you should not rush. Some people feel ready within weeks, others take months. Both are completely normal, whether you gave birth, your partner did, or you came to parenthood another way.
Making it more comfortable
- Use a water-based lubricant. Hormone changes after birth, especially when breastfeeding, can make the vagina drier.
- Tell your partner if penetration hurts. Pretending it does not can make sex feel like a chore. You can still share pleasure without it.
- Go slowly and try positions where you control the depth.
- You might like to explore with your own fingers first to reassure yourself.
- Make time to relax together. Cuddles and closeness count too.
MythYou have to wait until your 6-week check to have sex.
Fact
There is no official waiting rule. The key is that you feel physically and emotionally ready, and have contraception if you need it. The check is a good moment to ask for help if sex is painful.
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This is general information, not medical advice. Splash can’t diagnose. If you’re worried, talk to a GP, pharmacist or sexual health clinic. In an emergency call 999 (UK) or 911 (US). How we write and check articles.